The Coaching Lounge

Discussions to help you reach a state of self-actualization and resonate on the frequency of your life purpose.

Self-confidence is an important requisite that can help you grow and achieve better results in your personal and professional life. Tahlia Gray is on a mission to enable women to be empowered, ooze with confidence and feel in control every day. She does this through her London-based hosiery brand - Sheer Chemistry that she founded, which caters for women of all shades of brown who want to live life on their terms and enjoy

Tahlia Gray is on a mission to enable women to be empowered, ooze with confidence and feel in control every day. She does this through her London-based hosiery brand - Sheer Chemistry that she founded, which caters for women of all shades of brown who want to live life on their terms and enjoy life that much more. You will want to hear Tahlia’s inspiring and fascinating story in which she reveals secrets to her amazing success.


“You really can give to yourself everything important that you need.”


This quote by Joyce Schafers epitomizes exactly how she helps individuals and couples get everything they need by clearing out baggage so that they can ‘fulfill their emotional cup’.


 In this podcast edition, Joyce provides a re-education about emotions and relationships. You will learn about:

  • the cycle of unresolved emotional pain
  • emotional deafness
  • an approach to cultivating emotional healthy relationships


In this podcast you will also access a FREE Coaching Tool called Permission to Rise.

Joyce Schafers:

Rebecca Gordon:



"I need them to be present with me in the storm, not just tell me what to do."


We live in a time in which some topics that were once considered uncomfortable or taboo are now embraced and explored with empathy and understanding.


Prince Harry’s revelation of the mental health challenge he faced at the time of his mother’s death reminds us that we are all treading on that fine line. All it takes is just one situation to create an array of emotions that can spiral into different levels of feelings such as low mood, anxiety or deep depression. No-one is immune from slipping across the line.


In today’s edition of The Coaching Lounge, I spoke to a Mental Health Practitioner, Psychotherapist and Counsellor who is ‘present in the storm’ and provides a stable and enabling influence for those going through life's turmoils. In his mission to ‘co-create and collaborate to address change, Michael Opoku-Forfieh also works alongside other skilled mental health practitioners to support people with mental health issues lead fulfilling lives.


As Michael shared his thoughts on issues relating to mental health, I couldn't help but feel his passion, dedication and commitment to his work. When you tune in, you will feel it too. Also, watch this short video clip that superbly gives a flavour of Michael's energy.

You may also want to check out this article on ’23 Tips for Improving Your Mental Health’:



Dr Cary Cooper (Organisational well-being)



In this podcast episode, Grant Connelly encourages us to “choose the idea of peace.” Grant is an advocate of the notion that the pathway to inner peace begins with accepting oneself. Yet that is not always easy to do.

In my chat with Grant we delved into :

  • A perfect way to approach managing emotions
  • How to release attachments to the toxic emotions of others
  • Scripts to cultivate inner peace
  • The 15 characteristics of self-actualizers




Think back to your very first date. How did you prepare for it? I bet that you didn’t just turn up with the expectation that everything would just fall into place.

Way before the moment of that super important event, I reckon there would have been some conscious and unconscious application of thought and energy on what needed to happen to present your super self and leave, knowing that you did your very best to make your interaction go smoothly, maybe even to get to the next date. 

Your practical and mental game-plan might have included something choosing an amazing outfit that made you feel special, comfortable and confident; thinking of interesting snippets of fascinating things you could share, or thought-provoking questions to ask that would ensure an enthralling conversation. 

Then, there’s the emotional stuff that we all get caught up in when we think of going on that first date. On one hand, we think that we’re playing it cool: “Everything will go ok… it will be a breeze.” Or we may be consumed with thoughts of self-doubt: “OMG! Supposing the conversation runs dry? What do I do?” “What if I get flustered!!”

A first date can generate dual emotions. The sense of excited anticipation and positive expectations can intermingle with great internal pressure to ‘get it right’, so much so, that the mere thought of going on a date becomes daunting at the same time. 

Replace ‘dating’ with the word ‘networking’. Does this portrayal of dating feel very much like your networking experience? Does it feel like a pressure to mingle with a crowd of strangers hoping that somebody you meet there will be 'The One'?

Andrew McDonald, Founder and CEO of Possess Your Success, LLC, and an expert on networking asserts: 

“Most times people approach networking almost like a transaction. However, it is about making a connection, like a friendship. You must connect with people, learn about their interests, and care about them. You must also provide them with value; something they desire. When both of your interests are aligned and each person values each other, a relationship is formed and you can use that to fulfill each others needs.”

Andrew McDonald

I think that’s an awesome way to view networking – or even dating come to think of it! MAKE A CONNECTION and SEEK TO LEARN SOMETHING ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON. Sorry for using capitalization that seems to ‘shout at you’, but I think the message in Andrew’s interview needs to come across loud and clear. If you want to hear more of Andrew’s tips on how to establish fruitful and beneficial relationships, then tune into the podcast.

If you don’t tune in today, you might miss an important strategy that could be useful to implement at your next networking event. But I understand your time may be limited, so I’ve made it easy for you to fast forward to some specific gems of interest from Andrew:

05:32 - Focus for success

14:44 - Networking tips for introverts

18:20 - Elements to include in your pitch

27:55 - What to do immediately after a networking event.


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As I emerged from the airport into the overwhelming heat and vibrancy of my new environment I remember feeling a sense of awe and disbelief to know that I was now in the process of fulfilling a part of my life’s purpose. Eleven hours earlier, I was in balmy Birmingham, boarding the National Express coach to Gatwick and wondering what I could expect on my visit to Tanzania and Kenya.

It was incredible to believe that since wanting to visit Tanzania from the age of 14, I was now on my way! It was even more incredible to know that this 2 week experience had become possible because I had acted upon a thought just a few months earlier. Quite simply, I had an idea that is as crystal clear today as it was then. Some may call it the voice of a higher power or an internal satellite that comes into focus when we are still and recognise the magnetic pull that keeps us on track with our life’s intention. Needless to say, this powerful thought compelled me to make real an idea that I wanted to deliver training in Tanzania and enabled me to realise the wonderful opportunity of making a meaningful contribution to enhancing the lives of others.

On 16th July 2009, I arrived in Dar es Salaam, Tanzania. The sights and sounds of Africa resonated deep within as if stirring a distant memory from centuries gone by. During my two weeks in Tanzania, I recall feeling that the country was strange, yet familiar; the language confounding, yet nostalgic; my hosts strangers, yet like a long lost family. I was truly at home.

During my 10 days voluntary work, I encountered groups of teenagers who aspired to greater things and who wanted to break free of the restrictions of poverty. They had dreams to fulfill and ambitions not only for themselves, but for their families. Most of all, they were naturally talented, determined and totally focused on creating a better life.

“People are people. The similarities we have are much more powerful than the differences.”

Mbeke Waseme

The young people I met were in danger of succumbing (quite easily) to Aids and HIV infection, teenage pregnancy, prostitution, drugs and crime – not due to any lack of ambition, but due to a lack of support, care and guidance from wider society and from those who should know better. It was a harsh realization to see how a lack of positive intervention can quite easily set into motion a chain of events that leaves a legacy of poverty that impacts upon generations.

Needless to say, I learned a valuable lesson from the young people in Tanzania. It is that we should have a vision and do one thing every day to work towards this. I encountered young people who lived their dreams – perhaps not on the scale that we in the West may determine as significant, yet the smallest achievement towards a goal for some of the youngsters I met were against the odds for many in Tanzania.

Transferring my thoughts, knowledge and awareness of ‘life goal mapping’ was empowering for the young people. Amongst some of the positive outcomes was that from 24 year old Mponda. He asserted that as a direct result of the workshops, a new goal he implemented was to open a bank account and to save a set amount of money each week.

His learning from goal mapping was to stop taking money out with him every day and to become accountable for his daily expenditure. Rachel wants to be a dancer. From the workshops, she learned that creating a Vision Board would help her to keep her goals focused and real. Juliette wants to be a journalist. She agreed to keep a journal and write something every day in order to sharpen her skills in writing.

How many of us here would be as excited at carrying out (what may seem) small steps that serve a vital purpose of massively shifting the current reality?

In my recent podcast interview with Mbeke Waseme, I learned more about her specialist coaching that helps people experience profound benefits of living and working overseas. Mbeke explains some of the practical, emotional, mental and physical considerations, that when taken into account, can make the journey so much more of a heightened and invaluable experience. She shares why living and working abroad not only reconnects you with yourself, reframes your mind but enriches your life in a myriad of ways.

If you have ever wondered about the practicalities of immersing yourself in another culture and environment you will gain much from this podcast. You will be ready to take the next step in your life journey of self-exploration and self-growth that comes hand in hand with working and living overseas.

© Adapted from a blog written by Rebecca Gordon in 2009.

Rebecca Gordon is the Self-Actualization Coach at Satellite Life Coaching in Birmingham, UK. Visit www.satellitelifecoaching for free coaching tools and access Self-Actualization Coaching.



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